How is your Self Esteem? How are you measuring up? Now when it comes to Self Esteem, I am an Expert. That doesn’t come from ego. That comes from experience. What do I mean? Well I have had the worst Self Esteem and now I have the best. Yet there are sometimes even within a day my Self Esteem can go up and down.
I remember a long time ago when my Self Esteem was crap. I was over weight, and hating my body. Hating my marriage. Resenting almost everything around me. Yet on the outside everything looked perfect in most respects. We had the nice family home and the vacation home. Beautiful cars. 2 kids. 2 cats. Money to spend. Went on vacations. So it looked good on the outside.
So how was I measuring up. Why was my Self Worth not at its highest. At this time I was measuring my Self Worth ,which equates to my Self Esteem, by my marriage and the sadness that was between us. I was measuring myself on what kind of wife I was. It seemed that no matter what I did, my husband didn’t seem happy. Now I wasn’t focusing on myself. I was focusing and measuring myself on how I was showing up for others in my life. Also, most importantly my relationship with my husband. I felt I was doing everything right, yet it wasn’t good enough. So in turn, I felt really bad about myself that I couldn’t show up as the “perfect wife”. I wasn’t “good enough” as a lover. I wasn’t “good enough” as cook. I wasn’t “good enough” as house- keeper. All those things I was measuring myself from the feedback I was receiving.
Now because I was measuring myself to these outside factors and on the feedback I was receiving from my current relationship, my Self Esteem and my Self Worth or my VALUE was going down and down and I couldn’t get out.
Now I was so IN it, I couldn’t SEE it. Do you know what I mean? It took someone from the outside to show me what was going on. Have you ever measured your Self Worth by someone else’s feedback?
Most of us actually measure ourselves by what we see on the outside. For example, how much money we have in our bank account? How much debt we have accumulated? How many material assets we own? Do we have a great relationship with the opposite sex. What kind of job we are in? We are measuring ourselves by the results on the outside.
Yet, if we knew that in order to change the results on the outside, we needed to focus on the INSIDE. We wouldn’t be as concerned or measure ourselves with what is showing up on the OUTSIDE.
Consider this, when you focus on the inside and you practice the Self Love tools and practices that I teach, you will, in turn, increase your SELF WORTH and SELF ESTEEM. Then everything on the outside will start to change and manifest.
I know we have heard this before and it is not new. Yet did you know it takes us a multitude of times and different ways of hearing and seeing before it actually registers. Or we have that “ah ha” moment. We are human. It is the way we are programmed.
So why don’t you start LOVING yourself more? What is stopping you? Your Self Worth? Here is a ritual that I love to do everyday,. I start my day by asking myself what I desire each day. What do I want to feel like today? What do I want to enjoy today? I write these answers in my journal and create my daily intention from this space. Try it! Then do it!
In order for this to really work on your Self Worth and Self Esteem you need to add a couple of elements to this.
One, when you are asking yourself these questions, get out of your head. The best way to do this, is to place your hand on your HEART. Get connected. Breath. Then ask the questions. Once you have written down the answers to your questions. You create your intention for the day.
You must follow through with your intention . This is the secret. This is the place where we are creating the trust relationship on the inside. Remember, this is where it all starts.
So for example. I may write an intention like this. “Today I intent to come from love and everything that I do, say, write or portray to the world will come from a space of love and heart connection. I will place my hand on my heart before I speak or write or respond throughout the day. I will radiate love to the world today.”
Wow! How powerful is that?
Remember now throughout the day my intention is infused in everything I do. I am doing and being this. This is healing the trust relationship I have on the inside.
Everyday I do this ritual. This is just one of many. Yet, I wanted to share this one with you as it is something you can implement NOW.
Let’s turn this around. You are WORTH it! It all starts from within.
Much love and light always, Leona xox
“Self Love Expert and International Life Coach”