The Wounded Masculine
Will he choose to rise again or choose to fall? The Wounded Masculine breaks my heart. The masculine is having a spontaneous awakening. They are waking up and wondering where the heck are they. They thought they had it all figured out. They had a plan. They were on the right path and than one day they woke up and lost everything important to them because they had been sleeping.
They lost their business, they lost their money, they lost their family, they lost their house, their stuff and now they are about to lose their mind. It is as if they woke up on a brand new planet and had no idea how to navigate it. So the first reaction is to retreat into their cave. To go deep within their cave. They will probably fall into what appears to be a depression.
He has to go into his cave for awhile. He needs to figure out what happened and to make a new plan. Reset his GPS. Because at the moment he is completely out of alignment. He has no idea how to be in his natural essence which is to “Provide and Protect”.
What he doesn’t realize is that it is all perfect. It is a gift. Without losing it all he wouldn’t realize everything he actually has. He wouldn’t take the time to do the inner work that is necessary for this beautiful reset in his life. He already has all the tools and all of the wisdom. Now he gets to heal the deepest parts of his heart and soul. Actually this will be his biggest mission yet if he chooses to accept. To go to the unknown and darkest places. He actually has the gift of an opportunity to heal himself and chart a new path. All he needs is a little guidance. Perhaps guidance from an enlightened and energetically aligned female. Someone who knows this path and has successfully led many other men out of the darkness and into the light.
The next challenge is to ask for help because he doesn’t want to appear weak or that he doesn’t know his direction. So he investigates her energy and the inner dialogue begins. Can I trust her? Does she know what she is talking about? Will she deceive me or betray me. It is a huge risk putting my heart into her hands. I could get hurt again. Perhaps it is better to stay in my head and figure this out, I have done this before. Yet there is something magical in her. Something I can not articulate…yet I can feel it. I want to trust again.
So the battle of the head and the heart continues. It is at this pivotal point that he gets to choose his path. Will it be the old path that is so comfortable or will he forge a new path to his heart and reach out and ask her for assistance.
If he chooses to forge a new path, he will be surprised to discover his hidden treasures. He will rise from the fallen knight to the glorious King that he is meant to be.
It breaks my heart when I think of all the wounded masculine in this world. They have lost their way and now they are trying to find their way back. It breaks my heart when I think of all the damage the wounded feminine have done to the masculine. Feeding them lies, hopes, fears and destruction. It breaks my heart when I feel the wounded masculine and how broken their really are. I just want to hold them and breath life back in to them. It is time for the wounded masculine to rise to their Divinity. It is time for them to meet the true Divine Feminine. The one who honours and respects them. The one who cares and nurtures them because they are respected and honoured by the masculine. It is time for us to rise together. Not to be divided. Yet to be united. It is time for the false illusions of fear to be dissipated by the energies of love. Take my hand. Allow me to lead for awhile until you find your solid ground again and learn to trust the feminine. The true Divine Feminine. I will lead you down the path of self-love, self-discovery and self-awareness.
Much love always and forever
The Divine Feminine
What is next? Well one of you could end of being a "runner" in a Twin Flame Relationhip. Sometimes the egos often battle their soul intuition so strongly that they enter the Running phase. During this stage the ego is winning the battle, but it can’t win the war. The ego doesn’t realize that if it starts fighting battles against the soul, it will be battling forever, because battles will never end until it learns to surrender to the soul. Because of this, the ego burns out and is forced to lay down and accept the soul’s victory. The ego is not immortal. It only existed from the beginning of this incarnation. The soul is immortal and has existed for eons. The ego can never win over the old soul.
The stage of intense unity with your twin flame is often referred to as “bubble love”, because it seems as if nothing can interfere with this new happiness. The bubble can last from several days to several months, but in most cases, the bubble is inevitably popped by some set of circumstances both internal and external. Old patterns can inevitably drag us back down. The twin flame relationship is unlike anything you have ever experienced before. This causes you to struggle with your usual mental framework and previous ideas of love. As you fail to do this, the gap between you and your twin grows.
In order to be in a Twin Flame connection you are required to give "unconditional trust and love" to your twin. But you are inundated with memories of previous relationships, where you opened yourself up and ended up being hurt. You have been rejected, lied to, and abandoned, you learned not to trust so easily anymore.
So now when unconditional trust is required of you to set your true love free, you aren’t ready to give it out of fear. Being hurt develops an instinct to avoid potential future sources of pain, and an undeniable reflex to run as soon as pain arises. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable and trusting during this time is much harder than ever before. Our twin shines a bright light on the old fears, painful memories, repressed feelings and doubts. When these things surface we want to turn our doubts on to our twin and our love. Than we begin rationalizing and telling ourselves things like, they really aren’t our type, we find it suspicious that this person can love us so much while only knowing us a short time, and we doubt our own feelings. We tell ourselves what we feel is a lie. The flight or fight instinct kicks in and we want to run to safety. To an existence that feels familiar.
We tend to forget that as our fears and insecurities rise to the surface, so do theirs. While we are trying to deal with our old patterns, so are they. While we are hurting, so are they. Instead of seeing this, we feel as if they are hurting us on purpose.
This leads us to feel ignored, rejected, and confused. We think that through this, our twin has morphed into a completely different person because we can’t understand their behaviour. This might cause us to chase them in an attempt to “fix” them because we feel that we can help them deal with whatever they are going through. Twin Flames cannot fix or heal one another. They can only enable one another to heal themselves. Our twin makes it possible for us to find our wholeness. The real source of our pain is the lack of love for ourselves, which usually comes from our childhood.
Children are innocent and vulnerable. When they have to deal with pain, they are taught to quickly lock the emotions away. Once we meet our twin flame and our hearts are expanded by the sheer power of the love we feel for them, we are then forced to deal with the pain felt as a child and typically there is a lot of it.
If we had been taught to acknowledge our emotions instead of denying them, and learned to recognize and identify them as well, we would have grown up with the belief that we are good and love at our core. This would make it so much easier to accept the unconditional love from our twins.
So than what do we do next, we try to run. Run from the pain and from the one we think is the cause of it. We try to distract ourselves with work, entertainment, or other relationships. We avoid our twin because any reminder of them is the reminder of the pain. We let fear take over in place of the love. Fear is made up of our past experiences, and the pain we have felt previously. It teaches us to build walls, protect ourselves, make plans, lie to other people and ourselves. This builds enormous walls of protection around the heart. When we encounter our twin who forces us to face parts of ourselves that we have been denying, we respond with fear. We believe that unconditional love comes with expectations.
This Divine Love that we discovered when we met our twin- that is real- it’s the only real thing. We have to learn to centre ourselves in it, until we can treat everything that happens with acceptance and unconditional love. Until we learn to love ourselves, consider ourselves worthy of receiving unconditional love, and open our heart to it, we won’t be able to accept such love from anyone.
If your Twin Flame is a runner, there are things you must remember to get through your separation from them. Runners run because of the pain they feel but refuse to acknowledge. They aren’t running from you, and their goal isn’t to hurt you. They are running from themselves, and the issues they think they can avoid if they don’t have to face you again. The run is actually futile, because the love in their heart cannot be denied. You can’t fight it any more than you can fight God himself. The Twin Flame connection doesn’t just die over time or because you deny it. It continues to grow even while you are separated until it finally consumes the runner completely, and drives the twins back together.
Remember no matter what keep on loving yourself and be compassionate with yourself during this process. It is in the loving of the self that you will grow and evolve. That is why we are here. As always, I am sending much love and light, Leona.
Creator of Divine Love Retreats, Master Energy Healer and Self-Love Expert. Visit www.AwakenTheBeauty.com
Tick tock, the time has come that problems will arise between this beautiful Twin Flame Relationship. This seems to be the norm. See if this resonates at all within your relationship with your TF.
The male twin’s need for logical attraction.
Quite often during this phase the female consciously awakens, yet the males only consciously recognize that there’s “something” different about their twin compared to other women.
For the male twins, this soul knowing is usually experienced subconsciously right now. The females fully embrace their intuition that he is “the One” and they share a sacred soul connection. The male typically remains in his logical mind so they often don’t trust their feelings at this stage. They are totally in their head and afraid to go into their hearts.
Male twins can see logically that they like this girl a lot, or they might even allow themselves to admit they love her, but at the same time they doubt the love is real so soon because he just met her and this stage can be triggered even more if they have never met in person and only online.
The more the female twin is connected to her intuition and sure that he is The One, the more she will open up her feelings to her twin male counterpart. Since he doesn’t know how to connect to his intuition and trust in it, he starts to feel pressured and tons of doubts begin to arise. He often takes her “soul mate” scenario to mean that she is desperate and he begins to feel rejected because he believes she is projecting her fantasies of happily ever after onto any man who happens to come along.
Her certainty actually pushes him into uncertainty during this phase.
Lack of Heart Connection
Society frowns on men who are open with their feelings and emotions. Most men have huge amounts of emotions bottled up as a result of this. Their emotions are like a snake in the can. They are afraid if they lift the lid, the snake (their emotions) will jump out and get them. Because of this, men actually feel their emotions MORE when they do come out.
Men tend to bottle up decades of pain, anger, self-loathing, bitterness, sadness, disappointment, fear, abandonment issues, etc. They avoid feeling their emotions too intensely at all costs, which includes love because they know that even this will open the can and let the rest out.
Somewhere in this phase the male often begins to fear the snake that’s been bottled up. They fear their emotions will consume them, pull them under, and they won’t recover if they allow it to happen. They don’t know how to process and cope with their emotions as they come up because they haven’t been taught to effectively. Emotions are seen as a threat, which means he starts to see you as a threat because you are the one who makes his soul want to open up.
Expressing feelings and emotions often make men feel weak because they’ve been taught to “man up” and that “big boys don’t cry”. This is also why society views women as weak. What society doesn’t understand is that women know how to cope with and process their emotions much better than men, and that facing one’s emotions is actually a sign of great strength, not weakness.
So, How does the female twin stop her male counterpart from going into such intense uncertainty and defence during this stage?
She needs to hold back a little with her expression of certainty that he is “the One” for her. He needs to see that you are capable of logical thought in order to trust that your feelings are real. If he thinks you’re are running purely on intuition, he then feels your judgment can’t be trusted, which in turn means that your feelings could change any second.
Male twins need to see that you love him for logical reasons too. The things he does for you, the way he helps and supports you, cares for you, etc. Demonstrate that you love him for the actual actions he performs for you. Show him how thankful you are for the little things, and the big things he does for you. Tell him what makes you love him. Then he can see you have logical reasons to love and appreciate him.
The last thing your masculine twin flame wants is to open himself up to you and then have you suddenly realize you were wrong about him being “The One”. So many women do this. They project a fantasy image of their ideal man onto their current partner and when he opens up and allows himself to become emotionally attached, she leaves him because she suddenly realizes he wasn’t who she thought he was.
Men in general, as well as your twin flame are afraid of this happening. Show him that you are logically attracted to him for what he offers you, as well as emotionally attracted to him, because he won’t be able to open himself up to you fully or to the connection until this point. There will always be this underlying fear that you aren’t loving him for who he truly is and that he will eventually be rejected.
So ladies be patient. The masculine is learning to trust again. This is all a process of inner heart work.
Reach out and share your comments below. We are all going through crazy times right now. Hold strong.
Much love and light always, Leona
Self-Love Expert and Energy Master
Creator of www.AwakenTheBeauty.com Coaching and Divine Love Retreats