Tick tock, the time has come that problems will arise between this beautiful Twin Flame Relationship. This seems to be the norm. See if this resonates at all within your relationship with your TF.
The male twin’s need for logical attraction.
Quite often during this phase the female consciously awakens, yet the males only consciously recognize that there’s “something” different about their twin compared to other women.
For the male twins, this soul knowing is usually experienced subconsciously right now. The females fully embrace their intuition that he is “the One” and they share a sacred soul connection. The male typically remains in his logical mind so they often don’t trust their feelings at this stage. They are totally in their head and afraid to go into their hearts.
Male twins can see logically that they like this girl a lot, or they might even allow themselves to admit they love her, but at the same time they doubt the love is real so soon because he just met her and this stage can be triggered even more if they have never met in person and only online.
The more the female twin is connected to her intuition and sure that he is The One, the more she will open up her feelings to her twin male counterpart. Since he doesn’t know how to connect to his intuition and trust in it, he starts to feel pressured and tons of doubts begin to arise. He often takes her “soul mate” scenario to mean that she is desperate and he begins to feel rejected because he believes she is projecting her fantasies of happily ever after onto any man who happens to come along.
Her certainty actually pushes him into uncertainty during this phase.
Lack of Heart Connection
Society frowns on men who are open with their feelings and emotions. Most men have huge amounts of emotions bottled up as a result of this. Their emotions are like a snake in the can. They are afraid if they lift the lid, the snake (their emotions) will jump out and get them. Because of this, men actually feel their emotions MORE when they do come out.
Men tend to bottle up decades of pain, anger, self-loathing, bitterness, sadness, disappointment, fear, abandonment issues, etc. They avoid feeling their emotions too intensely at all costs, which includes love because they know that even this will open the can and let the rest out.
Somewhere in this phase the male often begins to fear the snake that’s been bottled up. They fear their emotions will consume them, pull them under, and they won’t recover if they allow it to happen. They don’t know how to process and cope with their emotions as they come up because they haven’t been taught to effectively. Emotions are seen as a threat, which means he starts to see you as a threat because you are the one who makes his soul want to open up.
Expressing feelings and emotions often make men feel weak because they’ve been taught to “man up” and that “big boys don’t cry”. This is also why society views women as weak. What society doesn’t understand is that women know how to cope with and process their emotions much better than men, and that facing one’s emotions is actually a sign of great strength, not weakness.
So, How does the female twin stop her male counterpart from going into such intense uncertainty and defence during this stage?
She needs to hold back a little with her expression of certainty that he is “the One” for her. He needs to see that you are capable of logical thought in order to trust that your feelings are real. If he thinks you’re are running purely on intuition, he then feels your judgment can’t be trusted, which in turn means that your feelings could change any second.
Male twins need to see that you love him for logical reasons too. The things he does for you, the way he helps and supports you, cares for you, etc. Demonstrate that you love him for the actual actions he performs for you. Show him how thankful you are for the little things, and the big things he does for you. Tell him what makes you love him. Then he can see you have logical reasons to love and appreciate him.
The last thing your masculine twin flame wants is to open himself up to you and then have you suddenly realize you were wrong about him being “The One”. So many women do this. They project a fantasy image of their ideal man onto their current partner and when he opens up and allows himself to become emotionally attached, she leaves him because she suddenly realizes he wasn’t who she thought he was.
Men in general, as well as your twin flame are afraid of this happening. Show him that you are logically attracted to him for what he offers you, as well as emotionally attracted to him, because he won’t be able to open himself up to you fully or to the connection until this point. There will always be this underlying fear that you aren’t loving him for who he truly is and that he will eventually be rejected.
So ladies be patient. The masculine is learning to trust again. This is all a process of inner heart work.
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Much love and light always, Leona
Self-Love Expert and Energy Master
Creator of www.AwakenTheBeauty.com Coaching and Divine Love Retreats