What is next? Well one of you could end of being a "runner" in a Twin Flame Relationhip. Sometimes the egos often battle their soul intuition so strongly that they enter the Running phase. During this stage the ego is winning the battle, but it can’t win the war. The ego doesn’t realize that if it starts fighting battles against the soul, it will be battling forever, because battles will never end until it learns to surrender to the soul. Because of this, the ego burns out and is forced to lay down and accept the soul’s victory. The ego is not immortal. It only existed from the beginning of this incarnation. The soul is immortal and has existed for eons. The ego can never win over the old soul.
The stage of intense unity with your twin flame is often referred to as “bubble love”, because it seems as if nothing can interfere with this new happiness. The bubble can last from several days to several months, but in most cases, the bubble is inevitably popped by some set of circumstances both internal and external. Old patterns can inevitably drag us back down. The twin flame relationship is unlike anything you have ever experienced before. This causes you to struggle with your usual mental framework and previous ideas of love. As you fail to do this, the gap between you and your twin grows.
In order to be in a Twin Flame connection you are required to give "unconditional trust and love" to your twin. But you are inundated with memories of previous relationships, where you opened yourself up and ended up being hurt. You have been rejected, lied to, and abandoned, you learned not to trust so easily anymore.
So now when unconditional trust is required of you to set your true love free, you aren’t ready to give it out of fear. Being hurt develops an instinct to avoid potential future sources of pain, and an undeniable reflex to run as soon as pain arises. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable and trusting during this time is much harder than ever before. Our twin shines a bright light on the old fears, painful memories, repressed feelings and doubts. When these things surface we want to turn our doubts on to our twin and our love. Than we begin rationalizing and telling ourselves things like, they really aren’t our type, we find it suspicious that this person can love us so much while only knowing us a short time, and we doubt our own feelings. We tell ourselves what we feel is a lie. The flight or fight instinct kicks in and we want to run to safety. To an existence that feels familiar.
We tend to forget that as our fears and insecurities rise to the surface, so do theirs. While we are trying to deal with our old patterns, so are they. While we are hurting, so are they. Instead of seeing this, we feel as if they are hurting us on purpose.
This leads us to feel ignored, rejected, and confused. We think that through this, our twin has morphed into a completely different person because we can’t understand their behaviour. This might cause us to chase them in an attempt to “fix” them because we feel that we can help them deal with whatever they are going through. Twin Flames cannot fix or heal one another. They can only enable one another to heal themselves. Our twin makes it possible for us to find our wholeness. The real source of our pain is the lack of love for ourselves, which usually comes from our childhood.
Children are innocent and vulnerable. When they have to deal with pain, they are taught to quickly lock the emotions away. Once we meet our twin flame and our hearts are expanded by the sheer power of the love we feel for them, we are then forced to deal with the pain felt as a child and typically there is a lot of it.
If we had been taught to acknowledge our emotions instead of denying them, and learned to recognize and identify them as well, we would have grown up with the belief that we are good and love at our core. This would make it so much easier to accept the unconditional love from our twins.
So than what do we do next, we try to run. Run from the pain and from the one we think is the cause of it. We try to distract ourselves with work, entertainment, or other relationships. We avoid our twin because any reminder of them is the reminder of the pain. We let fear take over in place of the love. Fear is made up of our past experiences, and the pain we have felt previously. It teaches us to build walls, protect ourselves, make plans, lie to other people and ourselves. This builds enormous walls of protection around the heart. When we encounter our twin who forces us to face parts of ourselves that we have been denying, we respond with fear. We believe that unconditional love comes with expectations.
This Divine Love that we discovered when we met our twin- that is real- it’s the only real thing. We have to learn to centre ourselves in it, until we can treat everything that happens with acceptance and unconditional love. Until we learn to love ourselves, consider ourselves worthy of receiving unconditional love, and open our heart to it, we won’t be able to accept such love from anyone.
If your Twin Flame is a runner, there are things you must remember to get through your separation from them. Runners run because of the pain they feel but refuse to acknowledge. They aren’t running from you, and their goal isn’t to hurt you. They are running from themselves, and the issues they think they can avoid if they don’t have to face you again. The run is actually futile, because the love in their heart cannot be denied. You can’t fight it any more than you can fight God himself. The Twin Flame connection doesn’t just die over time or because you deny it. It continues to grow even while you are separated until it finally consumes the runner completely, and drives the twins back together.
Remember no matter what keep on loving yourself and be compassionate with yourself during this process. It is in the loving of the self that you will grow and evolve. That is why we are here. As always, I am sending much love and light, Leona.
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