You probably were at the playground or walking along a path. Picked a flower and started picking each petal...He loves me. He loves me not. Remember. Allows trying to arrive at the point where...He loves me.
I am not sure boys ever played this game yet I am sure the thoughts of She loves me, she loves me not have run through their minds. The point being, since we have been children we have been looking for LOVE outside of ourselves.
Which brings me to a song that runs through my head from time to time "Looking for LOVE in all the wrong places."
See this is our challenge. We have been taught from a young age to look for love outside of ourselves and it begins with the relationship of our parents. From the moment we receive a smile from something we did as a very tiny baby, we would repeat the behaviour because it evoked a positive response. So the patterns repeat as we receive a smile, a hug, a cuddle, recognition and so on. We strive for that feeling of love from someone else. This pattern grows and expands into a deep program that can remain with us for the rest of our life. We can become disappointed and even depressed if we have a relationship where we are not receiving love. These patterns and programs can lead to a life time of relationship ups and downs. So how do we break through this belief that love comes from another.
You got it! Self-Love is the magical key to your kingdom of LOVE! Of course it is a perfect time to talk about LOVE as we enter into the famous month of February where hearts, love, gifts and so on overwhelm us and remind us of our lack of love we may have with another or love that is not good enough. Yikes! Don't get me started on Valentines Day! With my birthday being the day before, I have always had a bee in my bonnet with receiving heart shaped cakes, heart cards, wrapping paper, etc. See! I said don't get me started.
LOVE must come from the inside first before we can attract the love on the outside that we desire. How could we possibly expect another to love us unconditionally, when we don't love ourselves. Every single aspect of ourselves fully. How can we possibly expect another to adore and cherish us, if we don't ourselves. How can we expect another to completely understand us and our needs, when we don't understand ourself.
My suggestion is to spend some time with yourself this month. Get to know who you really are. What are your best qualities? Do you love every aspect of yourself? Even your dark side. Hmm...Give yourself the gift of LOVE this month.
As my gift to you, send me a message thru here and I will GIFT you my e-book "Your Self-Love Guide"
**If you really want to know, LOVE is energy, not a feeling. Just thought I would drop that thought provoking statement to get you really tapping in to your heart this month**
Love and light always, Leona