Change!?!? Most people's reactions when change is upon them is to FREAK out! Trust me, I have been there before. My life is full of change from the moment I entered this planet. I have come to realize over the years that change is part of my "M.O.". It is part of my mission on this planet...to be a positive influence of change. Now it took me years to figure that out. Than it took me many more years to do what was necessary to make it easier. What is that you ask? EMBRACE IT! SURRENDER! Yes that's it. Because change is inevitable. So you have two choices, embrace or resist! You would think the second is more painful yet the first is more difficult. Because we have such a deep programming for status quo, anything that "flows against" that programming makes it "difficult".
Think about this for a moment. If our programming was set in place before the age of 8 years old and there is tons of science around this. And our subconscious mind makes up 95% of our programming. Logically anything outside of this is not going to be easy to accept.
Than add in two different kinds of change, the kind of change we are instrumental in and the kind that is out of our "control". Oh yes control! This is the part that makes us freak out. It is out of our control, it begins to send a panic signal to our brain. We react...from our programming and all hell breaks lose. Even if we are instrumental in the change and desiring the change, our programming can rear its ugly head to try and derail us from our path.
Okay, than what can we do about it. Remember I said two things, embrace and surrender. Sound easy? Well, it really depends on your programming. This is what I know for sure. You can count on some resistance and it will take some time to build these new muscles of embracing and surrender. Yet with perseverance, courage, a great attitude, mindfulness, awareness and perhaps some hand holding. You will get better and better.
You will absolutely receive amazing gifts on the other side of the change. Ease and grace. Instead of panic and anxiety anytime unwanted change comes upon you. You will have new tools.
Here are some suggestions to get you started!
*Check in with your heart. Place your hand on your heart when asking important questions. This will keep you aligned on the right course!
*Ensure you have a daily routine that works for you!
*Ensure your daily routine has the elements with your Body, Mind and Soul!
* Do you have an "Attitude of Gratitude"?!?
*Structure and order are key for success! Keep your home and office organized and clear of clutter. This will assist you with being focused on the above and ensure your success during the change!
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Will he choose to rise again or choose to fall? The Wounded Masculine breaks my heart. The masculine is having a spontaneous awakening. They are waking up and wondering where the heck are they. They thought they had it all figured out. They had a plan. They were on the right path and than one day they woke up and lost everything important to them because they had been sleeping.
They lost their business, they lost their money, they lost their family, they lost their house, their stuff and now they are about to lose their mind. It is as if they woke up on a brand new planet and had no idea how to navigate it. So the first reaction is to retreat into their cave. To go deep within their cave. They will probably fall into what appears to be a depression.
He has to go into his cave for awhile. He needs to figure out what happened and to make a new plan. Reset his GPS. Because at the moment he is completely out of alignment. He has no idea how to be in his natural essence which is to “Provide and Protect”.
What he doesn’t realize is that it is all perfect. It is a gift. Without losing it all he wouldn’t realize everything he actually has. He wouldn’t take the time to do the inner work that is necessary for this beautiful reset in his life. He already has all the tools and all of the wisdom. Now he gets to heal the deepest parts of his heart and soul. Actually this will be his biggest mission yet if he chooses to accept. To go to the unknown and darkest places. He actually has the gift of an opportunity to heal himself and chart a new path. All he needs is a little guidance. Perhaps guidance from an enlightened and energetically aligned female. Someone who knows this path and has successfully led many other men out of the darkness and into the light.
The next challenge is to ask for help because he doesn’t want to appear weak or that he doesn’t know his direction. So he investigates her energy and the inner dialogue begins. Can I trust her? Does she know what she is talking about? Will she deceive me or betray me. It is a huge risk putting my heart into her hands. I could get hurt again. Perhaps it is better to stay in my head and figure this out, I have done this before. Yet there is something magical in her. Something I can not articulate…yet I can feel it. I want to trust again.
So the battle of the head and the heart continues. It is at this pivotal point that he gets to choose his path. Will it be the old path that is so comfortable or will he forge a new path to his heart and reach out and ask her for assistance.
If he chooses to forge a new path, he will be surprised to discover his hidden treasures. He will rise from the fallen knight to the glorious King that he is meant to be.
It breaks my heart when I think of all the wounded masculine in this world. They have lost their way and now they are trying to find their way back. It breaks my heart when I think of all the damage the wounded feminine have done to the masculine. Feeding them lies, hopes, fears and destruction. It breaks my heart when I feel the wounded masculine and how broken their really are. I just want to hold them and breath life back in to them. It is time for the wounded masculine to rise to their Divinity. It is time for them to meet the true Divine Feminine. The one who honours and respects them. The one who cares and nurtures them because they are respected and honoured by the masculine. It is time for us to rise together. Not to be divided. Yet to be united. It is time for the false illusions of fear to be dissipated by the energies of love. Take my hand. Allow me to lead for awhile until you find your solid ground again and learn to trust the feminine. The true Divine Feminine. I will lead you down the path of self-love, self-discovery and self-awareness.
Much love always and forever
The Divine Feminine
What is next? Well one of you could end of being a "runner" in a Twin Flame Relationhip. Sometimes the egos often battle their soul intuition so strongly that they enter the Running phase. During this stage the ego is winning the battle, but it can’t win the war. The ego doesn’t realize that if it starts fighting battles against the soul, it will be battling forever, because battles will never end until it learns to surrender to the soul. Because of this, the ego burns out and is forced to lay down and accept the soul’s victory. The ego is not immortal. It only existed from the beginning of this incarnation. The soul is immortal and has existed for eons. The ego can never win over the old soul.
The stage of intense unity with your twin flame is often referred to as “bubble love”, because it seems as if nothing can interfere with this new happiness. The bubble can last from several days to several months, but in most cases, the bubble is inevitably popped by some set of circumstances both internal and external. Old patterns can inevitably drag us back down. The twin flame relationship is unlike anything you have ever experienced before. This causes you to struggle with your usual mental framework and previous ideas of love. As you fail to do this, the gap between you and your twin grows.
In order to be in a Twin Flame connection you are required to give "unconditional trust and love" to your twin. But you are inundated with memories of previous relationships, where you opened yourself up and ended up being hurt. You have been rejected, lied to, and abandoned, you learned not to trust so easily anymore.
So now when unconditional trust is required of you to set your true love free, you aren’t ready to give it out of fear. Being hurt develops an instinct to avoid potential future sources of pain, and an undeniable reflex to run as soon as pain arises. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable and trusting during this time is much harder than ever before. Our twin shines a bright light on the old fears, painful memories, repressed feelings and doubts. When these things surface we want to turn our doubts on to our twin and our love. Than we begin rationalizing and telling ourselves things like, they really aren’t our type, we find it suspicious that this person can love us so much while only knowing us a short time, and we doubt our own feelings. We tell ourselves what we feel is a lie. The flight or fight instinct kicks in and we want to run to safety. To an existence that feels familiar.
We tend to forget that as our fears and insecurities rise to the surface, so do theirs. While we are trying to deal with our old patterns, so are they. While we are hurting, so are they. Instead of seeing this, we feel as if they are hurting us on purpose.
This leads us to feel ignored, rejected, and confused. We think that through this, our twin has morphed into a completely different person because we can’t understand their behaviour. This might cause us to chase them in an attempt to “fix” them because we feel that we can help them deal with whatever they are going through. Twin Flames cannot fix or heal one another. They can only enable one another to heal themselves. Our twin makes it possible for us to find our wholeness. The real source of our pain is the lack of love for ourselves, which usually comes from our childhood.
Children are innocent and vulnerable. When they have to deal with pain, they are taught to quickly lock the emotions away. Once we meet our twin flame and our hearts are expanded by the sheer power of the love we feel for them, we are then forced to deal with the pain felt as a child and typically there is a lot of it.
If we had been taught to acknowledge our emotions instead of denying them, and learned to recognize and identify them as well, we would have grown up with the belief that we are good and love at our core. This would make it so much easier to accept the unconditional love from our twins.
So than what do we do next, we try to run. Run from the pain and from the one we think is the cause of it. We try to distract ourselves with work, entertainment, or other relationships. We avoid our twin because any reminder of them is the reminder of the pain. We let fear take over in place of the love. Fear is made up of our past experiences, and the pain we have felt previously. It teaches us to build walls, protect ourselves, make plans, lie to other people and ourselves. This builds enormous walls of protection around the heart. When we encounter our twin who forces us to face parts of ourselves that we have been denying, we respond with fear. We believe that unconditional love comes with expectations.
This Divine Love that we discovered when we met our twin- that is real- it’s the only real thing. We have to learn to centre ourselves in it, until we can treat everything that happens with acceptance and unconditional love. Until we learn to love ourselves, consider ourselves worthy of receiving unconditional love, and open our heart to it, we won’t be able to accept such love from anyone.
If your Twin Flame is a runner, there are things you must remember to get through your separation from them. Runners run because of the pain they feel but refuse to acknowledge. They aren’t running from you, and their goal isn’t to hurt you. They are running from themselves, and the issues they think they can avoid if they don’t have to face you again. The run is actually futile, because the love in their heart cannot be denied. You can’t fight it any more than you can fight God himself. The Twin Flame connection doesn’t just die over time or because you deny it. It continues to grow even while you are separated until it finally consumes the runner completely, and drives the twins back together.
Remember no matter what keep on loving yourself and be compassionate with yourself during this process. It is in the loving of the self that you will grow and evolve. That is why we are here. As always, I am sending much love and light, Leona.
Creator of Divine Love Retreats, Master Energy Healer and Self-Love Expert. Visit www.AwakenTheBeauty.com
Tick tock, the time has come that problems will arise between this beautiful Twin Flame Relationship. This seems to be the norm. See if this resonates at all within your relationship with your TF.
The male twin’s need for logical attraction.
Quite often during this phase the female consciously awakens, yet the males only consciously recognize that there’s “something” different about their twin compared to other women.
For the male twins, this soul knowing is usually experienced subconsciously right now. The females fully embrace their intuition that he is “the One” and they share a sacred soul connection. The male typically remains in his logical mind so they often don’t trust their feelings at this stage. They are totally in their head and afraid to go into their hearts.
Male twins can see logically that they like this girl a lot, or they might even allow themselves to admit they love her, but at the same time they doubt the love is real so soon because he just met her and this stage can be triggered even more if they have never met in person and only online.
The more the female twin is connected to her intuition and sure that he is The One, the more she will open up her feelings to her twin male counterpart. Since he doesn’t know how to connect to his intuition and trust in it, he starts to feel pressured and tons of doubts begin to arise. He often takes her “soul mate” scenario to mean that she is desperate and he begins to feel rejected because he believes she is projecting her fantasies of happily ever after onto any man who happens to come along.
Her certainty actually pushes him into uncertainty during this phase.
Lack of Heart Connection
Society frowns on men who are open with their feelings and emotions. Most men have huge amounts of emotions bottled up as a result of this. Their emotions are like a snake in the can. They are afraid if they lift the lid, the snake (their emotions) will jump out and get them. Because of this, men actually feel their emotions MORE when they do come out.
Men tend to bottle up decades of pain, anger, self-loathing, bitterness, sadness, disappointment, fear, abandonment issues, etc. They avoid feeling their emotions too intensely at all costs, which includes love because they know that even this will open the can and let the rest out.
Somewhere in this phase the male often begins to fear the snake that’s been bottled up. They fear their emotions will consume them, pull them under, and they won’t recover if they allow it to happen. They don’t know how to process and cope with their emotions as they come up because they haven’t been taught to effectively. Emotions are seen as a threat, which means he starts to see you as a threat because you are the one who makes his soul want to open up.
Expressing feelings and emotions often make men feel weak because they’ve been taught to “man up” and that “big boys don’t cry”. This is also why society views women as weak. What society doesn’t understand is that women know how to cope with and process their emotions much better than men, and that facing one’s emotions is actually a sign of great strength, not weakness.
So, How does the female twin stop her male counterpart from going into such intense uncertainty and defence during this stage?
She needs to hold back a little with her expression of certainty that he is “the One” for her. He needs to see that you are capable of logical thought in order to trust that your feelings are real. If he thinks you’re are running purely on intuition, he then feels your judgment can’t be trusted, which in turn means that your feelings could change any second.
Male twins need to see that you love him for logical reasons too. The things he does for you, the way he helps and supports you, cares for you, etc. Demonstrate that you love him for the actual actions he performs for you. Show him how thankful you are for the little things, and the big things he does for you. Tell him what makes you love him. Then he can see you have logical reasons to love and appreciate him.
The last thing your masculine twin flame wants is to open himself up to you and then have you suddenly realize you were wrong about him being “The One”. So many women do this. They project a fantasy image of their ideal man onto their current partner and when he opens up and allows himself to become emotionally attached, she leaves him because she suddenly realizes he wasn’t who she thought he was.
Men in general, as well as your twin flame are afraid of this happening. Show him that you are logically attracted to him for what he offers you, as well as emotionally attracted to him, because he won’t be able to open himself up to you fully or to the connection until this point. There will always be this underlying fear that you aren’t loving him for who he truly is and that he will eventually be rejected.
So ladies be patient. The masculine is learning to trust again. This is all a process of inner heart work.
Reach out and share your comments below. We are all going through crazy times right now. Hold strong.
Much love and light always, Leona
Self-Love Expert and Energy Master
Creator of www.AwakenTheBeauty.com Coaching and Divine Love Retreats
Did you know that there are several phases to a Twin Flame Relationship? During my sessions with my clients over the years through one on one sessions and through the retreats that I lead, I have been privy to information that has led me to compile such insight. I previously mentioned the first phase where are are actually "Preparing" to meet our Twin.
The second phase of a Twin Flame Relationship is the "Recognition and Awakening".
Now the interesting phenomena that is happening is that most twins are not meeting in person. They are having a digital experience and within the digital online conversations there is an instant soul recognition. Of course, this can happen in a physical way as well. Yet I find it even more interesting how we can connect much easier online. We tend to allow ourselves to trust the conversation unfolding and not be attached to the physical elements or even the outcome, and when we do, we will move through this phase at a faster pace.
You require to have a whole other level of trust when communicating with people online whether it be texting, video calling or instant messaging. When you have not put a physical person in front of you the awakening of your own inner guidance and intuition can be supercharged. Triggering the awakening process to happen at lightning speed can have its side effects though. So be aware that you can actually revert to old “lack of trust issues” or you can choose to respond with open and honest communication. You will find with a twin that there is a very deep connection, very quickly
When Twin Flames meet one another, whether it is online or in person, their souls already know one another even if the twins themselves don’t consciously realize they are Twin Flames immediately. Their soul and energy bodies know immediately and then the heart chakras begin to merge into one.
Twin Flames often get along very well in this stage, and some even start a relationship with one another that’s full of love and joy. Even though they still might not consciously know that they are Twin Flames, they will know that they have never felt so strongly about anyone else in their whole entire life.
Twin Flames share a strong telepathic bond which is there instantly in this stage (and was always there before they even met).
The Twin Flame Telepathy is actually the language of the Heart. Stay with me here...
As Human Beings, we are always sharing our energy involuntarily with other people. It’s out of our control. With twin flames this phenomenon is more fascinating. Both halves of the Twin Flame couple have the same soul resonance, and vibrate at the same energy frequency, their energy sharing transcends to a whole new level. It’s a mixture of empathy and telepathy, which allows them to sense each other’s thoughts, feelings, and wishes.
When we have conversations with our twins, we often find ourselves amazed at how “tuned in” they are. They might finish our sentences or verbalize things we are internally thinking about.
Often times they will call or text us at the very moment we reach for our phone to contact them, or we’ll find a message from them just as we go to write them an email.
As the love grows between the Twin Flame couple, so does the telepathic connection between them. Telepathy reflects an energetic resonance, so the deeper the oneness and the stronger the bond between twins, the better each will be at receiving and transmitting one another’s telepathic signals.
Did you know that our entire being- mind, body, heart, and soul are required to transmit, receive, and interpret these signals. Telepathic signals are sent out through the heart chakra, which acts at a transmitter for mental and emotional information, and it is received through the crown chakra (the connection to our higher selves, the Universe, and the Divine). The mind then translates the energy received by the connection into a language that we can understand.
When the energy is connected between Twin Flames, it creates a telepathic communication gateway between them. This is founded on their feelings of intense love for one another.
Now before you can have telepathic communication, you must be able to open the heart and crown chakras. These chakras often open during a spiritual awakening.
I like to refer to this next part of the process as “Heart Resonance”. As each one grows spiritually, their energetic bodies merge more and more, giving rise to the Ascension which purifies their hearts. Ascending hearts are opening themselves for the deepest and more sincere communication between one another.
As Twin Flames merge, they will gain new spiritual abilities by sharing the code to one another’s soul, as one always carries the keys to the other’s codes. Just some of the magic that can unfold when Twins merge. This gives them the ability to sense one another’s energy and thoughts- even when they are physically apart.
Telepathic abilities within each twin may differ, depending on the inner work one does. The twin who has advanced further on the spiritual path or inner work will have a stronger ability to transmit their thoughts and feelings telepathically to the other twin.
By sharing a telepathic connection with your twin, it allows you each to experience one another’s minds as if it were your own. You might find your twin fulfilling wishes that you haven’t even verbalized. Or even answering questions you haven’t asked. It’s like two minds becoming one to such a degree that it’s often hard to distinguish between your own thoughts and that of your twins.
As each of the twins becomes further awakened and grows spiritually, and becomes more in touch with their higher self, they will become more aware of the telepathic connection between their own heart and that of their twin’s.
Once again to remind you of the importance of the individual person’s heart opening and inner work is all done through the Self-Love process. We cannot attract this opportunity into our lives, without first experiencing only LOVE for our self.
Even if you have already met your Twin, remember you are still required to do the inner work to further your connection and isn’t the ultimate goal LOVE.
When twins reach surrender, they come to appreciate this means of communication more, and learn to understand its subtleties. This telepathic connection between them becomes an ever-present source of comfort and spiritual nourishment for twin flames.
If you are curious to know if you are on the right path or even what the next phase is, send me an email with your phone number to set up a time to connect, to Wallace.email@example.com
Much love and light always,
I Am here to be of service to you, so you may BE the best you ever!
Self-Love Expert and Master Energy Healer
Creator of Divine Love Retreats.
Let’s face it. Most of us have had our fair amount of experiences when it comes to being broken hearted or disillusioned by love. We could be completely fatigued and done with the whole relationship rollercoaster. You may even still be entangled in a karmic relationship and you feel like you are so done. In fact, you said “enough” of this ride and you are not even looking anymore. Than one day out of the blue you meet someone who you are totally unprepared to have in your life. This may be your twin flame.
I will let you know that feeling unprepared is one of the biggest reasons why twin flame separation and the twin flame runner and chaser complex occurs. In fact, we might have already met our twin flames, yet we have overlooked them or taken them for granted in some way.
Whatever emotional or psychological stage you’re at in life, it is always beneficial to be conscious of the people you live with, meet, connect with and spend your time with.
That is why I have put together a list of possible twin flame signs that might help you to open new pathways and opportunities for union:
1. You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.
2. You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person. (Even if it is online.) This might manifest itself as déjà vu, or an unshakable feeling that you’ve known this person before or are somehow “meant to be together.”
3. You have a feeling that they are going to play a very important role in your own development, without knowing when, why or how.
4. You’ve established an immediate, intense connection with them that is invigorating and shocking at the same time. It can actually shake you up to the core.
5. When together you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached. In other words, you still maintain your freedom even though you might be in a relationship with them.
6. You are able to be your authentic self – scars and all – without the fear of rejection, persecution or judgement with them.
7. You both embody the yin and yang, in other words, your dark side is balanced by their light side, and their dark side is balanced by your light side.
8. You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
9. They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
10. You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours. This means that you are both very conscious of the present play of energy (whether happy or sad, angry or forgiving, open or withholding) present in the connection. You’re both therefore highly empathic with each other.
11. You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
12. You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life beyond surface similarities.
13. Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing. For example, if you are a highly-strung person, your twin flame will most likely be relaxed and messy. If you like to play the victim, your twin flame will be a strong character who refuses to give you pity or sympathy to perpetuate your complex. If you are creatively repressed, your twin flame will be a flourishing artist. In this way, our twin flames challenge and infuriate us but also teach us important lessons about our fears, core wounds, and repressions.
14. One of you is more soulfully mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counsellor or confidant within the relationship.
15. You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and with them.
16. The most growth you’ve ever experienced has been with them. No other friendship or relationship has transformed you as deeply as this one has.
17. Your connection is multi-faceted. In other words, your twin flame is likely your best friend, lover, teacher, nurturer, and muse all at once.
18. Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
19. You can be truthful with each other about anything.
20. Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose, whether spiritually, socially or ecologically.
Are you still looking for to know more? Contact me for a free clarity call. Reach out with an email and make sure to include your number so we can chat.
Much love and light, always
Self-Love Expert and Energy Master
There is immense value in the experience of relationships. Through these experiences we learn how to TRUST and HEAL our hearts. This is the key to everything. Below my trusted friend Michiel shares some of his wisdom with regards to Karmic Relationships. Does this resonate with you?
KARMIC RELATIONSHIPS by Michiel Versteeg
Karmic relationships are different from twin flame and soulmate relationships. In a spiritual context, karmic relationships are viewed from the lens of personal growth. Here are some of the signs of a karmic relationship.
1. They repeat patterns. If you’re on and off in your relationship, that is major sign it’s a karmic one. If you seem to be experiencing the same kinds of relationship problems, that is also a big red flag. Such relationships repeat the same patterns and remain stagnant, because the only way you can grow from them is by letting go.
2. They are selfish. Karmic relationships do not respect healthy boundaries in their partners. They serve only their own self-interest and needs. They are the perfect template for forming abusive or co-dependent relationship complexes. While one person is very invested, the other person views it more as a convenience.
3. They are addictive. They are characterized by highs and lows of passionate intensity. One or both partners are more in love with the idea of love, based on superficial reasons such as good looks, popularity, social or professional status.
4. They are controlling. They are obsessive and all about ownership of your partner. The other person becomes the center of your universe, and the main source of your happiness. You put them on a pedestal and are unable to see their flaws.
5. They feel destined. You think that you cannot live without this person and feel like you both are somehow meant to be together. You cannot fathom why it keeps failing, and you keep trying and hoping to get it right. They are extremely hard to resist, and keep drawing you in, until you learn what you need to from it.
6. There is an instant connection. Such relationships are marked by an immediate attraction. This person feels perfect to you. It feels like you have known them before, and you become instantly attached to them.
7. They create dependency. You begin to feel consumed by the relationship, and it begins to occupy your thoughts all the time. You can’t help handing them all the power. You become mentally, physically and emotionally dependent on this person.
8. They bring out your worst fears. They bring to the surface all the things you are deathly afraid of. Fear of abandonment, fear of commitment, fear of rejection, fear of loss, fear of emotional engulfment, and all the skeletons hiding in your closet.
9. They are irrational. They hold a mirror to your worst vulnerabilities and ugly insecurities. You start acting unlike yourself and do things that you wouldn’t normally do.
10. They reveal your dark side. They show you your most undesirable and difficult characteristics that you were previously unaware of. They painfully remind you how human you actually are.
11. They are tumultuous. Such relationships are incredibly volatile, erratic and unpredictable. The best thing you can do for yourself is to identify such a relationship and learn to let it go for your own good.
12. They push your buttons. The main purpose of these relationships is for you to learn how to properly love yourself and others, such that you stop trying to control your circumstances, become the master of your own ego, and focus on working on yourself.
13. They do not last. This person is not your forever person, how much ever you want to hope, wish and believe in your fairy tale ending. Contrary to what you see on television and media, such relationships are born out of conflict and end in conflict. They are extremely unhealthy, and usually do not last.
Regardless of what relationship you are in, they all serve a purpose. The purpose is your own personal growth. Learning and healing TRUST. Opening your heart to reveal your truth.
Also, the most important relationship is the one with SELF. These outside experiences are there so you may grow, learn to TRUST, expand in your awareness and experiences.
The value with working with an expert to assist you on this journey is immeasurable. The ROI is the best that you will ever receive. You are worth it.
Contact me today and allow me to Guide you through this process. firstname.lastname@example.org
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The Heart’s Frequency of Trust
On the surface, you carry the same heart frequency as the highest frequency of love.. Yet your mind may tell you that this is not true, yet your heart trusts. Trust is the core energy of the Heart. It cannot be otherwise. You may feel that your heart has closed itself off from this vibration, or that you cannot feel it in your life or in the people who surround you, but this is not truth. Your heart trusts.
At this time I would like to shower you with waves of divine love to envelop your heart with a remembrance of the fullness of these frequencies your heart once mastered so well a very long time ago. My intention is to heal you with the frequency of my words.
A core heart frequency is vitally important for you to continue to re-integrate and foster, one that can teach you about yourself and create small miracles in your life. Trust is a connective energy, it establishes bridges of light and connection between you and all beings, allowing you to sense and connect to other hearts. Trust is also Openness, the more you trust, the more you are able to allow, experience and savour all of the sweet moments of Life without limit.
Are you fully conscious of the level of trust, dear One, you are able to open your heart as well? You may be surprised at what you discover.
It is time to fully heal our past wounds and surrender our egos to our true divine nature so that we may fully magnetize Trust. Our hearts are can be completely opened and allow the manifestations of the beauty and veritable paradise that is the fruit of our inner imagination…we have shaped and made our world with the fires of Love of our Hearts....our world is what we make of it…what we imagine it is…it is the sum total of all that that lies within our conscious and unconscious BEingness.
Most of humanity is not capable of creating with this kind of freedom of the heart as they have had many past lives and painful experiences which have led each of you to create many walls of protection over your hearts. You have placed a barrier between you and the natural flow of receiving all that is good and every kind of unlimited supply of Love that your hearts can imagine. These barriers consist of such energies as disappointments, feelings of being less than and what you have considered to be betrayals or abandonments from those around you and ultimately from yourself.
The result is that many of you cannot fully let love in…even when you experience a wonderful and most satisfying manifestation, you cannot permit yourselves to fully savour the moment, these many unconscious fears born of past experiences have taught you not to fully trust the good you receive, you fear the other shoe may drop or that something will come to take away your happiness. You fear that Life cannot be this good to you…you instinctively block the full sweetness of life and of love from coming into your life without restraint…Trust is a natural response…do you Trust Love? do you Trust with the full might of your heart that your Life experience can bring you great happiness? A fully open and trusting heart can possibly even experience the heights of Love such as ecstasy…all hearts are made the same with the same capability to experience the fullness of this kind of Love..
Trust is a powerful energy, imagine it as a great Flame in your heart, like a great Torch which can help you heal your fears…ask for Trust to be established in your heart and bridge every distance for you to bring to you all that you need to understand and reconcile. Teaching and nurturing your heart to fully Trust again is a process that requires patience. A child that has experienced trauma or negative perceptions of her/his self no longer automatically trusts. You must relearn to believe again that you are fully worthy and capable of loving to that degree. You will never regret having done so as you will no longer need to manifest scenarios that come to sabotage your long sought after happiness or that unfortunately come to validate the unconscious perceptions you may still have that haven’t yet evolved to a higher opinion of self, or finally where you believe that Life will never bring you all that you desire. The process of healing is to equalize all of this in the great flame of your heart with forgiveness and compassion. Once you have felt compassion and forgiveness for yourself, you can work with Trust as an active energy. To fully trust is to open your heart again, to allow yourself to Love and feel fully Alive. A child trusts so easily, it hasn’t learned the need to protect itself. It is quite possible to re-attain that state of innocence again and to fully trust that you are loved. How much can you trust beloved? Indeed, how much of Life’s great good do you choose to trust and allow yourself to merge with? An ascended master’s heart can span an entire ocean, a country, a continent, indeed all of the planet and more....
Now it is time to suggest to you a highly beneficial exercise in working with Trust. Reserve some time for yourself to take a look at all the areas in your life and identify where you do not Trust, there are always some areas where you trust more than others, where do you not allow the Great Life to bring to you all that your heart yearns to experience and become? Where do you block the flow of every good thing that would naturally be open and possible for you to experience? Imagine that the energy of Trust is a living energy that will help you burn through all the doubts, anger, disappointments, regrets and pain that hold you in repetitive patterns of lack of love. Sometimes the pain of a past event was too great to be felt and experienced in your present moment or daily life. In these cases, your Higher Self has taken this pain and stored it in your cellular memory to be revisited when you are once again able to process it. If a soul has repeatedly resisted revisiting these emotions to allow them to re-surface and to be released, they must now be somatised in their lower physical bodies and will often see the light of day as a physical disharmony which can no longer be denied. If still resisted, they will develop as a cancer or another type of physical ailment. We ask here that you turn over these wounds and negative emotions to the sacred fires of your mighty I Am Presence, for each energy that you have not yet allowed yourself to fully release yet, she/he will take each one and begin the process of transmutation. You may also ask Mother Mary and her Immaculate heart of Love to assist you in transmuting the fears that are most painful to you. Whatever happiness you feel you are being denied dear ones, whatever you feel you cannot have because it is seemingly out of your reach, take these emotions and ask your divine self to transform them through the action of the alchemy of the heart and the fires of the Christ Consciousness available in your heart which can heal and liberate you, as well as all the compassion, forgiveness, grace and joy that your heart can summon.
It is highly important also to seek to re-establish a perfect Trust in your Divine Self and to heal the wounds of all your past lives where you had suffered for your divine mission and you felt forsaken by your divinity. You may have often felt abandoned or betrayed by your divine self and often made vows that you would never believe again or that life was too hard; we have often directed much anger toward our Higher Self and suffered disconnection as a result; as well as the consequence of the manifestation of these emotions lifetime after lifetime. Intend now beloved to reconnect and resolve each of these moments by bathing them with the fires of purity and grace of your heart. Faith will maintain your frequency so that Trust can be instilled in your heart and now Love can flow, and only Love has the power to renew all of Life, to resurrect and reconnect with its nurturing and all-encompassing magic.
I am grateful for the team of Masters that assist me with this message. Thank you Adama for assisting with sharing of love so everyone has an opportunity to heal.
Remember your process of Self-Love is key to the process of TRUST. I am always here to assist you on your journey.
Much love and light always, Leona
You know it know longer serves you. You think you have kicked this energy out and yet it keeps sneaking back every time you get a little closer to your desire. That is why you are here today, to empower yourself with more knowledge and tools so you can experience more of what you desire and love now.
Shame has been used for centuries to keep communities together, doing so by shaming people into conforming. Our society has kept this up and instead of bringing people together it has caused people to retreat and isolate themselves.
Everyone has felt the emotional effects of shame at one point or another: embarrassment, fear, shyness, anger, rage, anxiety, envy and anytime there is an emotional reaction to something the body will respond physically.
We see this with heartache, you can literally feel the tightening in your chest, there is also scientific evidence that an emotional heartbreak can cause damage to the strings in the heart.
We see this with stress – the symptoms are endless really but stomach aches, tense muscles, headaches, crying etc.
Shame is one of those emotions that comes up when you believe that there is something wrong with you. It is different from guilt in that guilt is the belief you have done something wrong, something for which there is usually a remedy or amends for. Shame is deep seated. It is literally a strike against the soul.
Shame is believing that who you are is not enough, broken, damaged, no good, wrong, sinful.
The thing about shame is that, it comes from thinking a belief that is untrue. Either by a standard set by society, your family or yourself through observation and interpretation.
Awareness is the first step in starting to release shame. Noticing when you feel the effects of shame and digging deeper into recognizing where this comes from. A lot of the shame that is felt comes from childhood, it may have been a big event or one thing someone said or did to you. Either way it is important to notice it and then allow yourself to release it.
Physiologically your body will respond to the emotion of shame and in turn you will experience immediate symptoms such as:
Shrinking yourself smaller
Diverting eye contact
But moreover the long term effects of shame run deeper and can be felt even when you are not consciously aware of feeling shame.
Shame creates a stress response and stress creates a cortisol release. If you are a highly sensitive person, you are already likely in fight or flight mode more often than not which means you are Heading into if not already, an adrenaline deficit. Being ashamed of who you are because you are “different” from the majority of the population adds to the stress you already feel as a sensitive. It can be a viscous cycle if it is not managed.
Digestive issues abound in someone who is living behind a veil of shame.
Inflammation & infection is higher in bodies that are subjected to constant shame.
As every emotion has a physical counterpart the effects of shame are felt in the pancreas and duodenum. These are the parts of your body that are crucial to digestion and elimination. When shame is felt in the body, these organs want to expel. They want to work to get rid of what feels “disgusting” <- the root of shame. Holding the emotion of shame in your body can cause further damage to these organs.
Shame can lay a heavy beating on your immune system , digestive system and overall your ability and will to thrive in this world.
Let me ask you this. Have you ever had any experiences where you had to keep your truth quiet, particularly as a child? Well it’s time to reclaim your truth and value its power. By doing so, you will release energy, old shame, and subconscious blocks that may now be holding you back from living your life to the fullest.
It could be that you had lots of family secrets that your parents made sure you told no one about (which creates shame), or it could be you were bullied and felt unable to confide in anyone about it.
There are many circumstances where we have our truth kept locked in, and unintentionally we create shame around our truths. If you feel unable to speak your truth, then you feel shame. It’s nature’s law.
When we become shameful of our truths, we end up cutting off, discrediting, and devaluing a hugely important chunk of who we are and how we show up in the world.
This is true for me. When I was growing up, my parents had an emotionally abusive relationship, and I was sworn to secrecy about it. My parents wanted no one outside of the house to know what was going on. My sister and I had to practice the perception of perfection. Those cute little girls in their matching dresses and hair in ponytails. They are so polite and quiet, all the outsiders would say. Wow you have the nicest girls. They get up from the table and clear it without being asked. This is what the world saw. Not the unstable life on the inside. Parents constantly fighting. Our mother whose self esteem was so low and lived with her own mountain of guilt and shame acquired from her own childhood. So now it was being reflected on us little girls and her words would cut us like a sword and rip our hearts out. Then the next moment she would feel guilty and pull us back together so we looked like little dolls that were so precious. The stress it put on my sister and I to hold it all together on the outside. Never cry cause it shows a sign of weakness. Make sure you have good marks in school. Well that won’t matter cause you will be like the other generations of women before. Pregnant by 16 and not finishing high school. Wow. No shame intended here. Can you hear it in my voice? Sarcasm.
Then there was my father had anger issues and dealt with his emotions thru alcohol. He also had his own issues of shame given to him from his mother and father. Now don’t get me wrong, my parents were doing the best they could with the tools and experiences they had. They both loved us and we loved them. Yet what I learned growing up was it was better to not speak up or voice my feelings. Living under the same roof as them, it was impossible for me to not be affected by what was happening, yet I was unable to have my experience validated.
My parents were busy fighting, being in tension, or creating drama, and I was conditioned to not talk to anyone about “the troubles at home.” So my truth was shut down, kept only to me, my sister and my journal.
After my parents divorced, it didn’t getting any easier. Actually there was more shame attached to this. It actually affected my self esteem way down (which I kept under wraps as most thought I was a very confident young woman) I eventually moved out and on to college, and started my adult life. I felt proud of myself for staying strong through all the tough times at home, for being an emotional rock for my mother, and for forgiving my father for not being the kind of dad I wanted him to be.
Yet in my early twenties, things started to shift. After a few career U-turns, few rocky love affairs, a few years of experiencing Europe. I started to feel unsure of myself, and it started to bring up emotions I hadn’t felt for a long while.
For a long time, I’d considered myself to be strong, independent, and able to make decisions easily, and I was, overall, really confident. During my job changes, I felt unsure, doubtful, confused, and shameful.
Curious, I wanted to know where this shame came from. When in my life previously had I felt shame strongly? It led me back to when I was unable to truly have presence as “me” growing up—I was the girl who could only be a silent participant in an unhealthy household.
When I was told to not talk to anyone about what was going on, it was as if being told that my truth, perspective, and feelings were shameful.
At first I felt angry toward my parents, and any adults who may have known what had been going on but hadn’t shown concern towards my experience of the situation. But then, like a scientist, I detached and focused on how to release the shame.
I could see that some part of me must still be carrying shame toward speaking my truth, and the only way to release it was to share my truth.
So I told my story to a trusted friend. I didn’t leave anything out and quickly started to feel better. No one outside my family had known about what was going on, or what I’d experienced and seen. By telling someone outside of the family, I felt a shift—as if a spell was being broken.
Telling my truth did not make the sky fall down. It did not make me feel shameful. And it helped me see that while I’d been nurturing the brave, confident, no-BS side of me, there was a neglected side of me that needed to be seen—lonely, frustrated, confused, ignored.
Those “negative” aspects of ourselves are often the emotions we try to avoid, but as I began to validate them it helped me feel more compassion toward myself.
Feeling proud of yourself for your good qualities is one thing; being able to embrace yourself when you feel anger, resentment, or jealousy is another. And I learned that I have a “right” to feel all things.
Just as it’s okay to be excited, happy, and content, it’s also okay to feel sad, nervous, and bored.
Especially if you had an incident as a youngster where your “negative emotions” weren’t given space to be expressed, it’s important to be able to validate them now as an adult.
A lot of self-love work is about uncovering that hidden part of yourself and giving it light, room to breathe, capacity to exist. When we deny any part of ourselves we are not allowing ourselves to be truly who we are.
That’s not to say we should broadcast all our vulnerabilities on Facebook or go share with people who we know are incapable of honouring our truth. It could mean seeing a counsellor, a coach, a mentor or airing it to a non-judgmental support network.
When we realize we were “made” to keep our truths hidden by our environment or others, the first natural step is to feel angry, especially if this pattern of having to keep quiet took place as a kid or teen. Why didn’t the adults in our lives do the right thing and give us space to be heard?
Normally it had to do with their fears, insecurities, shames, and inability to face the truths for themselves. The important thing is to accept that they were unable to have done anything differently—to have provided you with what you needed.
Whatever you feel you needed from them (validation, support, safety to speak truth), accept and make peace with the fact you will never get these things from them. You can’t re-write history, and it may be likely that they are still, now, incapable of giving these things to you.
What we can do today, right now, is begin to release the habit of self-repression that we may have inherited from the past.
How do we do that?
Start to shine light and love on your truth, whether that’s turning your attention to your true passions that may have been ignored or taking baby steps to speak up on what doesn’t work for you.
Often we swallow our own opinions or needs in order to “keep the peace.” It’s time to take very small steps to rock the boat!
If you are subconsciously holding out for someone else to finally “See you” or love the real you, drop in with yourself and ask:
“Do I see the “real” me? Am I allowing my true self to be voiced, to be seen, to take up space?”
Do you have spaces in your life where you can “drop your guard” and be authentic?
I’ve found that having my truths validated is hugely important, and the following simple exercise is a good place to help you start:
Visualize a kind, benevolent being (which could be a trusted friend or person you know or your preferred idea of the universe/higher power/spirit) is with you and is saying this to you:
“I love that you love…”
And then allow yourself to list all the things you love! Write it down as a list.
“I love that you love making art. I love that you love dancing. I love that you love to have fun.”
This always leaves me feeling re-affirmed and self-secure. It never fails to make me feel happy to be me. And it allows me to feel loved for who I truly am, not for what I do for others.
If you have repressed anger or frustration/resentment (which is likely when we repress part of ourselves), find ways to healthily express it (for example a martial arts class).
I hope this helps you with your journey to truly valuing who you are at your core. Send love and validation to the aspects of yourself that perhaps your peers, family, and colleagues didn't or don't “get.” You have to expand to be all of yourself.
What’s the story?
Shame doesn’t appear from nowhere. It’s a form of conditioning that inhabits your mind, heart, body, and spirit. Maybe you were somehow made to feel ashamed of yourself when you were young – ashamed of who you are, your level of intelligence, your body.
There might be a story of shame that you’ve carried for a long time, but it’s actually a role you’ve taken on that is optional. Start to tell yourself that this shame story doesn’t have to define you.
Remember that who you are is not this story. Your essence is whole, not separate from anything, and boundlessly free.
Practice: Stand up and feel yourself in that familiar story of shame. Yes, right now! Just try it. Now, take a big step to one side and leave the story behind. Feel yourself minus the story. This is the possibility for you.
How does shame live in your body?
Every emotion has a physical component to it. Getting to know shame includes knowing how it lives in your body.
It may take some time to discover the physical experience of shame because it’s become so commonplace to you. Get quiet and bring your attention to your body. Then notice any physical sensations and places of numbness. You don’t need to do anything about them.
This is an exercise in simply meeting in open awareness what has been there anyway. It’s about making friends with the physical part of shame.
When you realize you don’t need to live the story of shame and you become aware of the sensations, the heaviness of this identity begins to dissolve. It’s the road to freedom.
Practice: As much as possible, a hundred times a day if necessary, bring your attention into your body and just be with whatever is happening. There’s no need to do anything; just simply be.
How you speak to yourself
Our inner self-talk can be so painfully harsh. And if you look at the root of what drives it, you’ll find shame, that feeling that there’s something terribly wrong—or worse—about you. Once you begin meeting the shame directly—by not being so captured by the story and feeling the physical sensations—this way of speaking to yourself starts to not even make sense anymore.
Let’s tell the truth. Are you actually that incompetent, inadequate so-and-so you think you are? If you look at these inner statements with the objective eyes of a scientist, you’ll be able to punch holes in them immediately.
By now, this negative self-talk is a habit that needs your attention, and the more intelligent focus you give it, the more it will unravel. Commit to recognizing this voice and letting its reign over you diminish.
Practice: Start by assuming that this damaging inner voice isn’t accurate and doesn’t serve. This is the truth. At least once every day, turn your attention away from these self-critical thoughts and let them float on by like clouds. Be the sky—vast, empty, and serene. Start to live here as much as possible and the critical thoughts begin to lose their power.
Know how and why you isolate
Living with shame is lonely and isolating. It makes you believe that no one would want to get close to you, which justifies your pushing them away. How do you do that? By being critical and judgmental of others.
Recognizing the urge to isolate is essential to moving through shame. Because it is a sign that your shame identity has taken charge. When you find yourself judging others and feeling separate, this is your golden moment to begin asking questions about your experience. What story do you believe? How do you feel in your body?
Not judging shame and welcoming it instead is the beginning of forming a new, healthy relationship—with yourself. Then you don’t need to be critical of others or push them away. You’re more available, authentic, and courageously vulnerable. And others will love you for it.
Practice: Recognize when you judge others and realize this is about you: it makes you feel separate. Is shame at the root of this need to separate? Inquire into what you’re thinking and feeling. Realize the possibility of a true connection with others.
Is there fear there?
Shame and fear often go hand in hand. You’re afraid of being seen for who you are. And at the same time, you fear being alone. You’re afraid you’re damaged goods, doomed to a life of misery.
As you get to know shame, become aware of various fears that may be lurking. Bring fear, too, out of the shadows and meet it lovingly.
Practice: Check to see if fear is present. Let down your resistance and allow it in, especially how it appears in your body. Like a long-lost child returning home, embrace the fear. Let it be there for as long as it wants to.
Moving ForwardFind the strength in being vulnerable
Vulnerability gets a bad rap these days. But what it actually offers you is the relief from having to hide from yourself, the simplicity of just being as you are without having to change anything.
Whatever you feel is your present moment experience. Resisting it creates endless suffering, and welcoming it in is the path to inner peace. This is the medicine for the secret of shame.
Be as you are. Not in the story of who you think you are that is denigrating and destructive—you’ve lived there long enough. Instead, shift your attention away from these thoughts, and allow your current experience as it is. These sensations…this breath…touching…hearing…looking…speaking…
It’s so relaxing because you don’t have to hide or grasp. You can just be.
Practice: Begin to get comfortable being with whatever you are experiencing in any given moment. Start with just a few moments until you see that it’s OK, that whatever you’re afraid will happen, won’t. Then, more and more, let yourself be.
Sacred honesty—with yourself
When you live in shame, you are constantly lying to yourself. You draw yourself into a trance that makes you believe you are inadequate, unworthy, and just plain wrong. The truth? It’s just plain inaccurate.
Healing from shame invites radical honesty. Are you up for it?
Whenever you are feeling separate and lacking, question your experience. Find the gap (#2 above), and recognize the thoughts and feelings in your body that have taken hold.
Then realize that who you are is so much more than this identity. To be perfectly honest, you are whole, unbroken, and infinitely at peace. Keep returning here. Become more and more transparent so the light of truth shines through.
Practice: Investigate your direct experience with a discerning eye to see what is true and what is false. Live in the truth of yourself as whole, full, pure, and capable.
Wide open heart
Shame is all about limitation, holding back, and keeping yourself separate and isolated. And where is your heart? Wounded, stuck, and closed.
Begin to live with a heart wide open. Move your attention outside of your head to notice the beauty and tenderness around you. It’s been there all along, you just haven’t noticed. Let yourself be touched by the simple experiences of daily life.
Shame is a filter that keeps you from life, and dissolving the filter leaves you available and receptive. Without even trying, you begin to notice love and appreciation. Where before you held back, now you engage.
Recovering from shame opens you to being fully alive!
Practice: Find within you the courage to begin to open your heart. Instead of being absorbed in shame, experience things—and people—with fresh eyes. When you notice that you are closed, open…open…open…
It's not easy to deal with painful emotions head-on. But it's a key to good health and well-being physically, mentally, and spiritually. If we don’t deal with pain when it occurs, it will resurface as compounded emotional toxicity later on — showing up as insomnia, hostility, and anger, or fear and anxiety.
As a further complication, if you don’t know how to deal with feelings of anger and fear, you're likely to turn them inward at yourself, believing, “It’s all my fault.” That guilt depletes our physical, emotional, and spiritual energy until any initiative or movement feels impossible. We feel exhausted and paralyzed, leading to depression.
You can learn how to recognize painful emotions right away and how to effectively "metabolize" and eliminate pain.
Overcoming difficult emotions such as fear, anger, guilt, and anxiety can bring the same disguised benefits that dealing with a physical illness can bring. Patients suffering from life-threatening illness often report that their diseases have taught them to love and value the other people in their lives more deeply than before they became ill. During recovery they learn to appreciate and understand areas of life that they took for granted before. While anger, fear, and worry are not diseases, we can grow from them even as we process them to become the person we want to be.
By turning to our inherent intelligence, harmony, and creativity, we can create a positive outcome; but if we are emotionally turbulent, we are too agitated to access that possibility.
WHY MEDITATION IS PART OF THIS EXERCISEThrough meditation we can experience our silent self beyond our thoughts and emotions. This is our internal reference point for equilibrium. From here we can create a desired outcome. To restore balance in our life, meditation must be an essential ingredient.
It is also important to support this with balanced activity in the basic areas of diet, exercise, and sleep. While some of these meditation exercises do not require any, we recommend our simple and effective meditation accessories for beginners.
Assuming these fundamental balancing components are in place, I would offer an additional exercise to specifically address what to do in the face of intense anxiety and fear.
LEARN HOW TO METABOLIZE PAIN WITH THIS SEVEN-STEP EXERCISEToxic, turbulent emotions have one cause — not knowing how to deal with pain. Pain is normal in life, but suffering isn’t. When we do not know how to deal with pain, we suffer.
IDENTIFY AND LOCATE THE EMOTION PHYSICALLYSet aside a few minutes when you won’t be disturbed. Pick any quiet place where you feel calm. It is recommended to take a seat that is sturdy, yet comfortable. The best practice is sitting up straight. The floor is not a bad idea, but this can become uncomfortable very quickly. Our meditation seating options are a strong and accessible alternative for those who seek deep meditation with both physical and emotional comfort. Sit in a relaxed position and close your eyes. For a few minutes, just meditate in silence. Focus on your breathing — or if you prefer, you may use a mantra.
Now with eyes still closed, recall some circumstance in the recent past that was upsetting to you. It may be a time when you felt you were mistreated, an argument with your partner, or perhaps a past injustice at work. Identify some instance where you felt emotionally upset.
For the next 30 seconds, think in detail about that incident. Try to picture what actually happened as vividly as you can, as if you were reporting it for a newspaper. Here, you are the observer watching this event. You are not the event, argument, or emotional upset; you are merely witnessing what is happening from the perspective of your silent self. You are carrying the effect of the meditation you just did, allowing you to maintain a vantage point that is not overshadowed by the intensity of the emotions.
Now identify exactly what you are feeling. Put some word on the incident that describes what you are experiencing. Be as precise as you can. Do you feel unappreciated? Insulted? Treated unfairly? Give the feeling a name. Come up with a word that epitomizes the painful experience. Focus your attention on that word.
WITNESS THE EXPERIENCEGradually allow your attention to move away from the word. Let your attention wander into your body. Become aware of the physical sensations that arise in your body as a result of the emotion you’ve identified.
These two elements — an idea in the mind and a physical sensation in the body — are what an emotion truly is, and they can’t really be separated. This is why we call it a feeling — because we feel emotions in our bodies.
Let your attention pass through your body as you’re recalling this experience. Locate the sensations the memory brings up. For many it’s a pressure in the chest or a sensation of tightness in the gut. Some feel it as pressure in their throat. Find where it is in your body that you’re feeling and holding the emotional experience.
EXPRESS THE EMOTIONNow express that feeling. Place your hand on the part of your body where you sense that the feeling is located. Say it out loud: “It hurts here.” If you’re aware of more than one location for the pain, move your hand from place to place. At every location, pause for a moment and express what you’re feeling. Say, “It hurts here.”
When you experience physical discomfort, it means that something is unbalanced in your experience — physically, mentally, or spiritually. Your body knows it — every cell in your body knows it. Befriend these sensations and their wisdom, because the pain is actually leading you to wholeness.
Writing your feelings out on paper is also a valuable way to express the emotion. This is especially effective when you can write out your painful experience in the first person, in the second person, and finally from the perspective of a third-person account.
TAKE RESPONSIBILITYBe aware that any painful feelings you experience are your feelings. These feelings are happening inside your body now as you remember the pain, even though nothing is actually taking place in the material world. You’re only remembering what happened, yet your body is reacting with muscle contractions, hormonal secretions, and other responses within you. Even when the painful incident was occurring in the material world, the effect was entirely within you. You have a choice in how you interpret and respond to emotional turbulence. Recognizing this is taking responsibility for your feelings.
This doesn’t mean you feel guilty. Instead, it means you recognize your ability to respond to painful situations in new and creative ways. By taking responsibility for your feelings, you can also gain the power to make the pain melt away. You’re no longer blaming anyone else for having caused the pain, so you no longer have to depend on anyone else to make it go away. Hold that understanding in your consciousness for the next few moments.
RELEASE THE EMOTIONPlace your attention on the part of your body where you’re holding the pain, and with every exhalation of your breath, have an intention of releasing that tension. For the next 30 seconds, just feel the painful sensation leaving your body with every breath. Some people find that making an audible tone that resonates in that part of your body where the pain is localized helps to loosen and lift the contraction away.
You can also experiment to discover what works best for you. For some people, singing or dancing does the trick. You may try deep breathing, using essential oils, or taking a long warm bath. Finally, if you have written out your emotions on paper, it can be helpful to ritually burn the paper and offer the ashes to the winds.
SHARE THE OUTCOMESharing the outcome of releasing your pain is important because it activates the new pattern of behaviour after the old painful pattern is released. Imagine that you could speak to the person who was involved in that original painful incident. What would you say to that person now?
Bear in mind that he/she was not the real cause of your pain. The real cause was your response. In your transformed state, you are now free. So you can share what happened without blame, manipulation, or seeking approval. Perhaps they intended to cause you pain, and you may have unwittingly collaborated in that intention. Maybe you would like to say you no longer intend to fall into such traps.
Whatever you say is totally up to you. As long as you have an awareness of the steps we’ve taken so far in this exercise, whatever you say will be right for you.
CELEBRATE THE PROCESSNow you can celebrate the painful experience that had taken place as the valuable material that helped you move to a higher level of consciousness. What was previously a disconnected, destructive, and disabled part of your psyche is now integrated and contributing its power toward your greater spiritual goal. Instead of responding to the situation with a pain reflex, perpetuating the problem, you’ve turned it into an opportunity for spiritual transformation. That is something to celebrate! Go out for a nice dinner or buy yourself some flowers or a present to honour the new you.
Use this exercise whenever you feel upset, to free yourself from emotional turbulence and the underlying pain. When you do that, you’ll find that opportunities will arise more often in every area of your life.
If you are ready to receive more of what you desire in this life. More love. Healthier relationships. A better relationship with your body and the love you have for yourself. I am inviting you to a 30 minute call with me. Let’s do this. Raise your hand if you would like to have a call with me. Let’s set up a call now. Contact me at RAISING MY HAND!!!
Much love and light always,